Towels and Marriage

For quite some time now, years in fact, I have been asking my husband not to hang his wet towel over the dry towels that hang on the shower door when he is done taking a shower. I think it makes perfect sense that -  a.) his towel will not dry sufficiently, and b.) it will cause the dry towels to become damp. I don't feel like this is an unreasonable request, do you? I just for the life of me then, do not understand why he is unable to meet this request! I suppose it's better than finding it on our bed, or on the floor, but it's one of those things that has the ability to really send me into a tantrum. You know, the ugly kind!

Marriage is hard. Pledging your love to one person for eternity is hard, and maybe even a little insane. After all, if it's true that we humans are always changing and evolving (and it is), then it stands to reason that our relationships will too, no? When I think of the young child I was when I met my husband and compare her to the woman I've become, I see only glimmers of that girl.

One of the miracles of love is it's ability to morph. Love is the ultimate magic trick! It can disappear, and just at the moment when you think it has died, drowning in that tightly chained box sitting at the bottom of the heart's pool, it breaks free, rises to the surface and shouts, "I'm alive!" Love is pretty crazy stuff, that's for sure.

If I were to attempt to write all of the ways in which my love for my husband has changed, grown, disappeared, reappeared and morphed over the years, we'd be here until the cows come home! The challenges don't ever end when you pledge your love to someone for a lifetime but another miracle of love is it's ability to persevere, wet towels and all. The times in which my husband has been there for me in the ways that really count needs to over ride the annoying stuff. I have to remind myself of that. Sometimes love needs reminders.  LOTS of them! In the end, the towels won't matter, the rest of the stuff will.

I will say this though, If you're one of those people that hangs your wet towel over the dry ones...DON"T!

xo,
Carrie